Failure Isn’t Who You Are, It’s an Experience You Have

Failure Isn’t Who You Are, It’s an Experience You Have

Over a decade ago, the company I was working with was in trouble. The marketing funnel and large marketing budget that had driven successful leads to the sales team was struggling and bleeding money.

The sales team had just experienced massive turnover and in an effort to stop the death spiral, a new sales manager was hired. The new sales team that was hired by the new sales manager was inexperienced and very ineffective.

The feeling of losing ground and of collapse was in the air. You could feel the tension. It was a sickening feeling.

The ship sunk.

Sometimes things just don’t work. Sometimes our plans and dreams fall apart.

That doesn’t mean we should give up.

Failure is a part of life but it isn’t life. When you’re in the midst of failure (the pain, the hurt, the anguish, and the shame) it feels like it is all consuming, almost like your life is ending.

But it passes. Sometimes only with time.

Failure isn’t who you are, it’s an experience you have.

Failure won’t define you unless you let it define you.

Some people won’t ever get back up on the horse once they get knocked off. They simply say, “I’m done” or “I’ll never do that again”.

This errant thinking dams opportunity and potential.

You just have to try again. You may need to try a different horse but you have to get back on.

As you push forward to your next venture, it’s very possible that your brain will remind you of your previous failures. Part of your brain is built to protect you and keep you safe.

It’s natural to feel this way but greater happiness is on the other side of this FALSE safety alarm. You have to work through the noise and push through the false alarm.

If you listen to this part of your brain too often, you will become a shell of the person you once were. You’ll never achieve what you really want or who you are meant to be.

Take action. Be bold. Face the fear of failure.

The life you really want is waiting for you.

How Your Mind is Like a Muscle

Excerpt from my next book Mind Traps: Escape the Chains That Hold Your Future Hostage

Science used to think that after a person matured and became an adult the mind was basically “stuck” (don’t you love the official term). You had what you had at that point, and there was no amount of effort that could change the brain.

In the book Rewire Your Brain, John B. Arden, Ph.D. says:

“There is a revolution occurring in brain science. Not long ago it was thought that the brain you were born with was the brain you would die with and that the brain cells you had at birth were the maximum number you would ever possess. The brain was thought to be hardwired to function in predetermined ways. It turns out that this is not true. The brain is not hardwired; it’s “soft-wired” by experience.”

Although genetics plays a role in our potential, our desires and attitude are powerful scripts for our future performances. The mind can be molded and cultivated, shaped and trained.

This ground-breaking science further explores neuroplasticity, which are how the neurons in the brain connect to each other as we experience life.

In my opinion, the most important concept that comes from the research is that the mind is like a muscle. Through workouts muscles can become stronger, quicker, and resilient. Muscles need good nutrition and consistent opportunity to be stretched, nurtured, and pushed.

Your mind is similar. Through training, your mind can become stronger and more resilient. Memory can be improved, habits can be reshaped, willpower can be strengthened. Your thoughts can become a powerful and purposeful tool at your disposal. New patterns of thinking can be implemented that support you values, vision, and actions; all of which leads to more sustainable and higher levels of performance.